how does one deal with low self esteem

Laqzi

Well-known member
Joined
Jan 25, 2025
Messages
53
Reaction score
158
Age
17
Location
ctf_2fort
Website
laqzi.straw.page
Gold
1,861
Pride '24 - Bi
Lounge Access
Profile Music
Pronouns
he.............
i swear to god im gonna obliterate something if i dont know the answer to this question that has bugging me out for years already. i hate felling jealous, i hate comparing myself to other. what do i even do at this rate. maybe im burned out? maybe im not good at this? maybe i just suck doing art itself?
 
To be honest, I struggle with the same feelings of envy and compulsion to compare with myself with others pretty often. I hate talking about cause it's a really icky and bitter feeling that I'm not very proud of lol, but I think it's pretty normal to feel that way. I know the common saying is "comparison is the thief of joy", which is absolutely true, but it's something I admittedly struggle to internalize lol.

I think the best advice I can give is to be patient and give yourself some time. Time to both step back and decompress if you're feeling burnt out, and time to put in the work necessary to get to a point to where you feel more comfortable and confident in yourself and your abilities. Both of these have the potential to take a long time, so be patient with yourself! Imo, being an artist is about being the active process of making it just as much as it is about not actively making it, if that makes sense. Like, as I'm sure any artist is aware, sitting down and making something is only half the battle. As an artist, you also need time away from the art to clear your head. Or maybe you need time to gather inspiration, either from your own life or other media or whatever. And sometimes you just need to stare at an empty canvas for a little while! It's all apart of the process. I never finished reading it, but David Lynch's book, Catching The Big Fish, has a really pertinent quote. When he was young, a father to a friend of his told him, in regards to painting, that "if you want to get one hour of good painting in, you need to have four hours of uninterrupted time". Generally, I find this to be pretty true.

And once you're back at it, don't expect immediate results! I promise you, most, if not all, of the artists you may look up to for inspiration took a looong time to get to where they are right now. Everyone's a little embarrased of their old work, so you don't probably hear about it often, but I assure you it's true. And despite what you'd think, even now, a lot of them still probably struggle with their own insecurities. And if none of these things are true for someone you look up to, then they're either naturally gifted or arrogant, in which case, you probably shouldn't be comparing yourself to them lol

Anyways, yeah. Just be patient with yourself and keep at it. It's okay to falter sometimes, everyone does it, but don't let your insecurites take over! Every artist has something unique to them they want to express through their art. Sometimes it just may take some time to figure out what exactly that is, or maybe you already know what it is and it's just a matter of figuring out how to communuicate that the best you can. And truth is, everyone is still trying to figure that out! Novice or not, trying to figure all this shit out is just what it means to be an artist

Hope this helps :)
 
To be honest, I struggle with the same feelings of envy and compulsion to compare with myself with others pretty often. I hate talking about cause it's a really icky and bitter feeling that I'm not very proud of lol, but I think it's pretty normal to feel that way. I know the common saying is "comparison is the thief of joy", which is absolutely true, but it's something I admittedly struggle to internalize lol.

I think the best advice I can give is to be patient and give yourself some time. Time to both step back and decompress if you're feeling burnt out, and time to put in the work necessary to get to a point to where you feel more comfortable and confident in yourself and your abilities. Both of these have the potential to take a long time, so be patient with yourself! Imo, being an artist is about being the active process of making it just as much as it is about not actively making it, if that makes sense. Like, as I'm sure any artist is aware, sitting down and making something is only half the battle. As an artist, you also need time away from the art to clear your head. Or maybe you need time to gather inspiration, either from your own life or other media or whatever. And sometimes you just need to stare at an empty canvas for a little while! It's all apart of the process. I never finished reading it, but David Lynch's book, Catching The Big Fish, has a really pertinent quote. When he was young, a father to a friend of his told him, in regards to painting, that "if you want to get one hour of good painting in, you need to have four hours of uninterrupted time". Generally, I find this to be pretty true.

And once you're back at it, don't expect immediate results! I promise you, most, if not all, of the artists you may look up to for inspiration took a looong time to get to where they are right now. Everyone's a little embarrased of their old work, so you don't probably hear about it often, but I assure you it's true. And despite what you'd think, even now, a lot of them still probably struggle with their own insecurities. And if none of these things are true for someone you look up to, then they're either naturally gifted or arrogant, in which case, you probably shouldn't be comparing yourself to them lol

Anyways, yeah. Just be patient with yourself and keep at it. It's okay to falter sometimes, everyone does it, but don't let your insecurites take over! Every artist has something unique to them they want to express through their art. Sometimes it just may take some time to figure out what exactly that is, or maybe you already know what it is and it's just a matter of figuring out how to communuicate that the best you can. And truth is, everyone is still trying to figure that out! Novice or not, trying to figure all this shit out is just what it means to be an artist

Hope this helps :)
thank you so much :]
 
I feel this thread; I always think that my art suck somehow and are not up to some ridiculous standards. I know this is silly and I should not listen to these kind of thoughts, but it gave me paralysis like I can't even work on a new art project. This has been going on for well a year now and I still don't know how to resolve this. Before I had a pretty good creative output working on tracks almost everyday, but now I'd be lucky if I work on a track per month.
 
Have you seen this before?
etld8mkwz6261.webp
 
Back
Top